C in C.U.N.T. stand for Curious
I would like to bring a new meaning to the word “cunt”.
On one hand, it is possibly the most offensive word in the English language. On the other, it’s a word with a lot of power and an extremely rich etymology. To be C.U.N.T. is, to me, to have achieved a certain level of mastery when it comes to balancing your inner feminine and masculine energies, and to have extended that to your business, your work, or whatever creative effort is important to you.
Collectively, we’ve chosen this word to encompass our distrust of the feminine essence and potency over many centuries. It’s time to create a different narrative. As the Bible says, “In the beginning was the Word” (John 1:1). In the context of reclaiming leadership from the feminine aspect, this word could well be “cunt”. I choose to reclaim it in my own language as an expression of appreciation for my feminine essence. Not only in its gentle form but particularly in its dark, potent, vast and unexplored quality. Tantric masters refer to cunt (or yoni) as the only temple in this universe that conceives, and births, life. I hope it can become a temple of life for the movement of the empowered feminine rising, in partnership with, and supported by, the empowered masculine.
The C.U.N.T. framework is all about that very partnership and interweaving. C in C.U.N.T. stands for curious. What is curiosity? For me, it’s a quality of fundamental openness to life. Where does the energy want to flow, in this situation, or in the context of this particular relationship?
In my perception this has everything to do with how connected I am, first to myself, my own needs, desires, boundaries and beliefs; then with other people in a given situation; then with the bigger picture of a relationship, outside of the immediacy of what’s happening right now.
Curiosity means staying in openness and flow between these three levels. This means you easily move from one to another and back. It doesn’t mean, however, that I’m always open to everything that comes; contractions and boundaries are natural. But I can stay in connection with my own contraction while remaining in curiosity or openness to a situation. Being curious is to be free, unbounded, unrestricted. Without sufficient curiosity we inevitably get stuck – in our perspective, in our story, in the way we choose to interpret the world.
We try to squash the truth of a situation, which is infinitely complex and fascinating, into the box of our perception. And, if we manage to do that, we inevitably feel disappointed, sooner or later, that’s all there is to reality.
More on C.U.N.T. framework in posts in near future and in my forthcoming book “Laid Bare: what the business leader learnt from the stripper”. You can sign up for email updates here.
